Good sex can seem mystifying, surprising, a night of good luck. For those faced with emotional and/or physical challenges, good sex can be shattered by anxiety, disappointment, even fear.
Can you or your partner identify with any of these?
If you resonate with any of the above, one thing is certain; in this hard wired world you have plenty of company. Yet, if you’re still reading, a small part of you still has hope.
I’ve tried therapy 3 times. ..I’ve read books…nothing has worked
The integration of the newest neurological, scientific, physiological and psychological research has shown that many sexual problems cannot be solved by talking about them. Even if you gain insight and understanding, even if you pinpoint the factors, even if you connect all the dots, for many the fact remains:
TALK THERAPY WON’T SOLVE YOUR PROBLEM
Because the problem isn’t stored in the thinking part of your brain
If we could think our way out of big problems, no one would have any. Yes, talking is part of the solution. Talking will teach you about what is going on in your brain and how to become attuned to your body, and you will need all three.
How is this approach different?
Rebecca ( www.savingintimacy.com ) and Sharyn spent more than a year brainstorming ways to integrate their decades of experience, ancient wisdom and recent scientific discoveries to bring about sexual wellbeing. They worked to create a kind of program based on all of the above: A three-person model where your commitment is an essential requirement. Without this commitment, it won’t work.
In 12 weeks you will learn:
Many, who thought they’d come to the end of the line, who saw this as a last resort, have been helped. This is sex therapy as you’ve never seen it before.
How long will this take?
While it is true that we are each unique in our histories, our learning style, and our pacing, the program offers definitive turning points that fit most.
The First 4 Weeks : This is Boot Camp where you learn, absorb and adapt the basics—new ways of experiencing your body and regarding how it is working. You will meet separately with Rebecca and Sharyn in their respective spaces, building rapport and trust. You will soon feel that you are “gotten.” Rebecca’s website describes how this time is spent. With Sharyn, though it sounds daunting, many clients actually find relief in doing a complete assessment. You will be deconstructing your physical/family history, relational dynamics, Attachment Theory, Brain Science, Mind/Body awareness, and the stories you bring in including, most importantly, any trauma you’ve experienced. Some patients have suggested she’s a mind reader because she seems to understand a lifetime from a few details.
The Second 4 weeks :
Rebecca’s web-site, www.savingintimacy.com details how the two of you will be using the new behaviors you have learned with increasingly intimate touch as you replace your habitual default tendencies with a new awareness of what works for you. Her confidence and calm presence will support your confidence and calm presence. Without fear of judgment, without anxiety, without self consciousness, you will soon imagine yourself outside her office, bringing what you know into experiences of your own.
With Sharyn, your course will vary, depending on where you are. However, you won’t be on long archaeological digs repeating the stories you’ve told over and over again, unless you want to. Through deep relaxation, mild hypnosis, bi-lateral stimulation and somatic experiencing (which allows your body and your past to tell you what they need), you will target your negative beliefs about yourself that are held deep in your brain and you will use these methods to actually loosen and begin to override them with new optimal neural networks that you will build out of your learning, repeating and integration. You will begin to experience Brain Change.
The Last 4 Weeks : With Rebecca, you will fine-tune your tools as you focus on your specific issues. The two of you will work through the last of any blocks, practicing, as you polish skills in a zone of a relaxed confidence. With Sharyn, you will be installing more positive changes into your brain—permanently. Science has proven this is possible over and over again. And, if your situation is complicated and you have other areas you wish to explore, you can decide, if you want, to do that.
How much does it cost?
A Final Note : Some candidates may discover that they need more time. If you are a late bloomer or a person who moves forward slowly, you will know this by your 8th session. At that time, we can consider options and make decisions about what to do. Most importantly, you will know exactly where you are long before the program is over.